“A timely book with a timeless message, How Kind People Get Tough is more than just a blueprint for kinder living.  At its core, it also reminds us to stand firmly yet kindly within our power. Your heart and your relationships will be stronger after reading it.”

— Michael J. Chase, Bestselling Author & Founder of The Kindness Center

​READER REVIEWS

5.0 out of 5 stars  

All I can say is this book has been one of the best in it`s field that ​I have ever read. It`s a modern day elite toolkit for surviving life. Very well done Marléne!

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I couldn't put this book down. The author doesn't overwhelm you with too much information- each section is easy to understand and you are instilled with an understanding of the correct ways to become more assertive. I very soon noticed a difference in my own communications with others when I practised the given techniques, - I've loads to learn but the confidence obtained in trying is a huge boost. I'm eagerly looking forward to more insightful reading from Marlene Rose ​

5.0 out of 5 stars  

​I highly recommend this book. It's full of insight and case studies that are very relatable. Read this book to change your life for the better. It's a good book to dip back into aswell. Well done to the author for another fabulous book.

5.0 out of 5 stars  

Such a well written book with layers of support in the advice and case studies. so helpful for all kinds of relationships and communication. Marlene’s 2nd book is a must have for successful communication and outcomes in life. Thank you

5.0 out of 5 stars  

What an amazing read this book is. The author has given those of us who struggle with confidence issues the tools to change our lives around and become the person we've always wanted to be. Thank you for your words of wisdom Marléne. I will always be grateful.

How Kind People Get Tough is based on more than 25 years helping clients gain confidence, have happier relationships and more ​successful lives

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Who is This Book For?

​How Kind People Get Tough is for ​anyone who wants to :

  • ​Gain respect without coming across as arrogant or unkind
  • Say 'no' with confidence and without feeling guilty
  • ​Stop people-pleasing and feel confident in your own skin
  • ​Be heard ​instead of being accused of nagging and moaning
  • Set and maintain boundaries without fear of pushing people away
  • ​​Know where you stand in your relationships
  • Find courage to speak ​up​ without fear of rejection

Many people struggle with confidence and relationships ​ because they find it hard to find the balance between being kind and being assertive​

They get taken for granted ​by their friends, ​family and colleagues because they’re giving out all the wrong signals​.

They never get to experience deep and fulfilling relationships because they’re scared to show their true ​self.

They miss out on their own precious ​dreams because they’re so busy pleasing others.

The​y spend a lot of time feeling anxious, guilty or resentful​.

​Yet, it doesn't have to be this way. 

It is perfectly possible to ​lead an assertive life and be kind and considerate ​to others

Inside the Book ...

Part One: Can Kind People Be Tough?

​Who are the kind people discussed in this book? Is it really possible to remain kind, caring, and considerate and be assertive?

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Part Two: Why Do We Find It So Hard to Be Assertive?

​There are fundamental reasons ​why most human beings struggle with assertiveness. Find out what these are, and how to overcome them.

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Part Three: ​An Intentional Life 

​To change your life, you need a vision and a guide to help you. Learn how to simply and effectively create your own Intentional Life Plan

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Part Four: How Kind People Get Respect

​Learn how to stop being taken for granted, and ​gain respect, be truly heard, acknowledged and valued - while still being kind and considerate

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Part Five: How Kind People Speak ​Up

Learn how to to speak up, say No, express anger in healthy ways, and set limits that people will respect

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Part Six: How Kind People Get ​Great Relationships ​

Learn how to attract the right people into your life, stop giving in to people's demands and know where you stand

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More than just a book!

​Your Free Online Companion Course

This book is more than just a book. It is a process for change. It incorporates practical tools and techniques which have been used to help thousands of people change their lives for the better.

It also contains a free online companion course to help you put the tools, tips, and techniques into practice in your own life and relationships.


PLUS


​Your ​Intentional Life Plan

Your Intentional Life Plan will give you:


  • A very clear vision of what your new life will look like
  • A guide for how you’re going to make that happen easily and effectively, such as communication skills you will use and boundaries you will set
  • A reference point to refer to in challenging situations.


W​hat makes this book different?

There are many great books on assertiveness skills, but they often don’t address the ​fears people have about ​coming across as unkind or arrogant, or being rejected.

How Kind People Get Tough explores what TRUE assertiveness is.

It will teach you how to find the balance between assertiveness and kindness ​to communicate well and be confident in your relationships

PLUS, the free complimentary  course offers you practical guidance on putting the techniques in the book into practice in your everyday relationships and life.

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Hi, I'm Marléne Rose Shaw; therapist, coach and self-help author. Over the past 25 years, I’ve been privileged to help thousands of people.  

I love to teach people simple and actionable steps to help them make rapid shifts towards more confidence, overcoming anxiety and happier relationships.

​I’m passionate about helping people overcome the blocks that have been keeping them stuck and unhappy, sometimes for decades, so that they are free to become the creators of their own destinies.​