Do you wish you could be more assertive, but you worry that you’ll come across as unkind or mean?​​

​Do you want to speak up and be the authentic you, without pushing people away?

Do you want to ask for respect, without seeming arrogant or confrontational?

​Then this is the book for you!

How Kind People Get Tough is based on more than 25 years helping clients gain confidence, have happier relationships and more ​successful lives

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​More than just a book!

​Your Free Online Companion Course

This book is more than just a book. It is a process for change. It incorporates practical tools and techniques which have been used to help thousands of people change their lives for the better.

It also contains a free online companion course to help you put the tools, tips, and techniques into practice.


​Your ​Intentional Life Plan

Your Intentional Life Plan will give you:

  • A very clear vision of what your new life will look like
  • A guide for how you’re going to make that happen easily and effectively, such as communication skills you will use and boundaries you will set
  • A reference point to refer to in challenging situations.

Who is This Book For?

​How Kind People Get Tough is for ​anyone who wants to :

  • ​Stop people pleasing
  • Say 'no' without feeling guilty
  • ​Be respected and valued
  • ​Set and maintain better boundaries
  • ​Feel confident in where you stand
  • ​Find courage to speak your truth
  • ​Stop being taken for granted

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Many people struggle with relationships, confidence and success because they find it hard to be assertive

They get taken for granted ​by their friends, ​family and colleagues because they’re giving out all the wrong signals​.

They never get to experience deep and fulfilling relationships because they’re scared to show their true ​self.

They miss out on their own precious ​dreams because they’re so busy pleasing others.

The​y spend a lot of time feeling guilty or resentful​.

​Yet, it doesn't have to be this way. 

It is perfectly possible to ​lead an assertive life and be kind and considerate ​to others

Inside the Book ...

Part One: Can Kind People Be Tough?

Who are the kind people discussed in this book?

How is it possible to remain kind, caring, and considerate and be assertive?

Part Two: Why Do We Find It So Hard to Be Assertive?

There are fundamental reasons ​why most human beings struggle with assertiveness. 

Find out what these are, and how to overcome them.

Part Three: ​An Intentional Life 

To change your life, you need a vision and a guide to help you. Learn how to simply and effectively create your own Intentional Life Plan

Part Four: How Kind People Get Respect

Learn how to stop being taken for granted, and ​gain respect, be truly heard, acknowledged and valued - while still being kind and considerate

Part Five: How Kind People Speak ​Up

Learn how to to speak up, say No, express anger in healthy ways, and set limits that people will respect

Part Six: How Kind People Get ​Great Relationships ​

Learn how to attract the right people into your life, stop giving in to people's demands and know where you stand

W​hat makes this book different?

​There are many great books on assertiveness skills, but they often don’t address the ​fears people have about ​coming across as unkind or arrogant, or being rejected.

How Kind People Get Tough explores what TRUE assertiveness is.

It will teach you how to find the balance between assertiveness, kindness and consideration to ​everyone.

PLUS, the free complimentary course offers you practical guidance on putting the techniques in the book into practice in your everyday relationships and life.

​Available December 2019! ​

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Hi, I'm Marléne Rose Shaw; therapist, coach and self-help author. Over the past 25 years, I’ve been privileged to help thousands of people.  

I love to teach people simple and actionable steps to help them make rapid shifts towards more confidence, overcoming anxiety and happier relationships.

​I’m passionate about helping people overcome the blocks that have been keeping them stuck and unhappy, sometimes for decades, so that they are free to become the creators of their own destinies.​